Therapy for Couples

Where do I even start?

When people ask how my partner and I are doing, I quickly search for my mask to put on. My relationship mask is great at acting as though everything is totally fine, but lately this mask has not held up its side of the bargain… it appears broken.

Others are now able ‘see through it’ and, worst of all, I no longer have the energy to hold up the broken pieces of my mask or what is left of our seemingly once happy relationship.

Frustration, anger, and guilt make their appearance regularly while holding back the tears when thinking about our ‘perfect’ trips to the Catskills together or the laughter we were once able to enjoy.

The glares we give to one another and the tone of voice we share has now become a vicious cycle. Daily, I find myself asking questions like, “Is it worth it? How much longer do I have to put up with this? Or do I even really know the person sleeping next to me?”

Navigating relationships is extremely challenging and complicated.

The people we love are often the relationships we have the touchiest time nurturing. Differing family upbringings and love languages creates a complex dynamic which becomes easy to get stuck in.

It’s not too late.

Understanding the ways we communicate to our partner and the cycles we naturally take are huge contributors to how relationships thrive. It can be described of a dance of sorts.

Therapy offers an avenue where we can recognize when the dance begins and how to get out of its way. When we can stop, take a breath, and call out when the dance is occurring, we can begin to organize what part of the vicious cycle is yours to own, what part is your partner’s to own, and what part is the dance taking its form.

This allows for repair as both partners can feel heard and create a new dance, one that is based on reflection, compassion, and healing.

The courage to rewire.

This process is most certainty not always an easy one, but it is possible to move through the challenges in a way that is more useful to the fluidity within the relationship. Growing personally and together as a couple is a powerful aspect of therapy in ways where each partner can rebuild an environment where emotions are safe to share.

Don’t let time be wasted; call now at (516) 253-1243 to discuss how couples therapy can benefit you and your relationship.